I’s boo’d up now!

I have always wondered, what about being in a relationship makes you change who you were before. Why is it that just because you have a significant other the rest of the world no longer exists? People stop calling their friends to hang out, the “girls night out” becomes “me and the boo are hangin’ out tonight, sorry”, hanging with the fellas is out the door and they stop coming to church (the one that bothers me the most).

Think about it… I am sure everyone has said, “ever since he/she got a boo they don’t know nobody no more” a time or too, referring to a friend who’s recently “neglecting” the homies. I know I have said it and I have heard it!

Is it that they are so wrapped up in their own relationship with the opposite sex that they no longer care to be around those they were around when they were po’, broke and lonely? Were there friends just there to kill time until Mr./Ms. Right (or Right Now) came along? And what’s with missing church and the lack of prayer and alone time with God? Wouldn’t you think you need Him more that you in a relationship??? I just don’t get it!

One could say that those who observe these things are jealous and just feel neglected. But couldn’t they just be concerned…Concerned that IF the relationship doesn’t last they will have problem coming back to the world and way of life they once lived; concerned that there spiritual man is slowly dying because they can’t seem to fit in time for their heavenly boo now that they have an earthly boo. I think those point would be valid ones to make.

I beseech you therefore, brethren to take the time to evaluate your behavior. Have you changed since you got a boo? Are you now lacking balance, trying to find time to spend with God and your friends who were there before this man/woman? Think about those relationships(platonic and the one with God) you were in. Are they important to you? Does it matter they may feel neglected? I admonish you not to neglect these friendships because THOSE are your support systems. They will be the ones to hold you up in the midst of adversity, the ones to call on when you have a question, the ones to make you laugh in the midst of a heated argument and the ones who will intercede for you at the drop of a hat.

I’m just sayin’