SMH

Maybe the FB world can shed some light for the inquiring minds that wanna know...

If a dude/female says they wanna just be friends (to a person of the opposite sex) nothing more nothing less what us that supposed to look like? PLATONIC is defined as purely spiritual; free from sensual desire, esp. in a relationship between two persons of the opposite sex.

Ok let me say that I know the answer to the above question. My best friends are male and those relationships are strictly platonic. But recently I have seen a vast increase in men and women who clearly don't know what this means or don't care. Which led me to write this and ask a few questions.

1. When a platonic relationship is no longer platonic due to ones actions (i.e. making a physical gesture on the other Like a kiss or a very sensual hug) does that mean that that person wanted to be more than just friends to begin with?

2. If person A continues to tell person B "I just want to be your friend" but person A treats person B like more than a friend by talking, texting, IM'in person B all day every day, or buying person B gifts or getting upset when person B may be interested in others, does that mean that person A wants more? Should person B end this not so platonic relationship?

3. If person B likes person A in a more than friends kind if way and it's clear it's mutual because they are doing those things listed above, yet they are steady talking about "just being friends", is person A in denial?

This may seem funny and childish. You may even be saying to yourself, this is so high school no adult can possibly be operating like this. But this is going on amongst "adults".

I'm not a gray area type person. Either it's black or it's white, it is or it isn't. I call it how I see it. In the words if Fantasia, "Id you don't want me then don't talk to me" lol! But forreal, it's dudes and dudetts out here not keeping it real with themselves. It's like their mouths and actions don't know each other. The mouth is saying one thing and the actions say another. SMH!!!!

Let me tell you the harm in all this... Someone is going hurt and if you care the least about your "friend" and their feelings then you need to keep it real 100%. if you like them and want to pursue them and take things further, SAY THAT! if you want to be just friends, ACT ACCORDINGLY. You only make it harder for you and the other person Involved when you are not real with 1. Yourself and 2. That other person.

Mix signals suck! So get it together folks! SMH

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